Live Uncomfortably

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No one wants to be typical. We all want to be special and different. But we all do the same things.  The majority of us live like one another and then wonder why we continually don’t achieve any real results or success in our lives.  We follow each others lead and rarely break the mold.

I know I’m doing something right when my friends and peers make fun of me. I’m going outside what is normal and taking steps toward success.  People are intimidated by those not living within societal norms.   They try to pull them back to their reality.  The main message I take away from these experiences is:

If you want to be different and have success in your life, you have to do different things.  Do the opposite of what everyone else does.

Let’s use an example to illustrate this point.  Let’s take the average American male.  I think it’s fair to say that the average guy would like to be rich, have more women in his life, and be more muscular with less fat. 

• More Money
  Most Americans are in the middle class but want to be filthy rich.  They make a fair amount of money but spend most of it on worthless toys.  They think it’s too hard to achieve wealth and only the lucky ones become rich.  So they play it safe, work hard for their money and usually acquire debt along the way.
  The rich do the complete opposite.  They let money work for them.  They save money to buy investments that will bring them more money.  They take risks and start businesses.  They spend money on toys only when they can afford to do so.
• More Women
  Most men want to attract beautiful women, but are uneasy and afraid to talk to them.  You never see a model with an unattractive, shy guy.  However, from time to time, you see an unattractive, confident guy with a model. 
  If you want more women do the opposite of other guys.  Be confident and don’t be afraid to talk to women like you would anybody else.  Most guys don’t know how to dress.  Look at some style magazines and copy those guys (don’t break the bank, shop at thrift stores).  Stop trying to impress women.  Make them impress you.
• More Muscle
  Most guys want more muscles, especially the upper-body muscles they can check out in the mirror.  To work their biceps, they do 3 sets of 10 curls everyday.  For their chest, they do the standard bench press which works their triceps more than their pecs.  They do 1000’s of crunches with out realizing that they are actually aerobically training their abs.  And they never work their lower body.
  Do the opposite.  Work your lower body.  Squats release testosterone and growth hormone in the body which will in-turn make your whole body grow.  Many bodybuilders will add extra, heavy leg work to break plateaus and increase their arm size.
• Less Fat
  The typical American diet is absolute crap.  People eat sugar and starches all day long.  They think that low-fat products are the healthier choice and neglect to read the labels.  Typical Americans don’t eat vegetables.  Typical Americans don’t eat a big breakfast and eat most of their calories in the evening. 
  Do the opposite.  Don’t eat sugar or starches, unless it’s after a workout.  Read the labels of everything you eat.  If sugar is one of the listed ingredients, run away.  In order to lose fat you must eat fat!  Read this article: The F-Word.  Eat vegetables with every meal.  Eat a big breakfast and several small meals during the rest of the day (I eat 5-6 times a day).  If everyone around you is fat, don’t eat what they’re eating.

This is just a small example of how doing the opposite can achieve results.  There are thousands of applications for this concept.  Each one of the above bullet points above could be broken down a hundred different ways.  Get creative with it.

Analyze what’s not working in your life and do the opposite.  In the beginning people will make fun, criticize, and try to bring you down.  In the end, people will respect, praise, and envy you.